Relationship Equity: Sex and the City

My best friend begged me all throughout college to watch Sex and the City. After watching the pilot episode, I would have been a totally different person today if I followed her advice. Okay, probably not. But the women in this series shed a whole new light on how life could be for women. Their various personalities and their fancy New York lifestyles, give a more progressive lens into heterosexual relationships, starting from the first episode.


In this episode, Carrie Bradshaw and her friends find themselves discussing the differences between men and women in relationships. One woman realizes that the fairy tale of romantic love is, in fact, not real. Once they make this sudden discovery, Carrie and her friends decide they are going to be more like men. They are going to flirt like men, think like men, and most of all, have sex like men.

This liberating view of romance is so appealing to the female viewers because we (not that I speak for all women) often feel under-benefited in our relationships. It is more likely, from my experience, for women to be willing to give much more, much sooner than men. When men do not reciprocate these actions and feelings, and worse, go in the complete opposite direction, women feel even more obliged to give more, say more, and feel more. It’s like the more the woman feels everything, the less the man feels anything! Hence, this episode of Sex and the City was extremely refreshing because it still hung on to the very traditional feminine view of relationships but takes a very liberal turn very quickly. A turn best described in this blog entitled “How to Know You’re Dating a Female Player.”



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6 Responses to Relationship Equity: Sex and the City

  1. mediaphiles says:

    I have watched many of the Sex and the City episodes, and what you talk about here is so relevant to many of the episodes and beyond. Romance and the man/woman relationships that are carried out throughout the series show the issues that you mention in a very clear way. I think this review does a good job at getting at the underlying theme and meaning that romance has throughout this series.
    – Cathy Maier

  2. mediaphiles says:

    Your blog post makes me really excited to watch this week’s sex and the city episodes. While I’ve never watched the series, I was a big fan of The Carrie Diaries, the short lived show of Carrie in her teenage years. I always appreciate shows that allow women to be liberated and enjoy sex and relationships, just as men are always allowed to.- Valerie Medoff

  3. mediaphiles says:

    Although I’ve never seen the series, this movie review reveals many of the important underlying meanings in Sex in the City that are important to have in our current day and age. This a great review that shows how the series is fun and relevant yet still has a great message.
    -Sam Cantor

  4. mediaphiles says:

    I had never watched Sex in the City until this class either and I absolutely loved it/can’t believe I never took the time to watch it. The series actually stands for something and made a change in women’s lives. In my opinion, the series pushed and, in some ways, introduced feminism because it was not a very common movement during the 90’s. –Jenna Romano

  5. marymdalton says:

    Who wrote this post?

  6. mediaphiles says:

    I find it so interesting how different males and female’s perception of this type of lifestyle involving romance, love and working in a huge city (and being very successful) can be so opposite. I give great credit to this show for exposing that and developing the feministic aspects so well to spread the message. I also have watched many episodes of this show in the past and for some reason, not until this week when we watched and read about the show etc. did I find out the show is named Sex AND the City not Sex IN the City. Reading other people’s comments, I guess hat seems to be a common theme.
    -Kendall Fischlein

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