My best friend begged me all throughout college to watch Sex and the City. After watching the pilot episode, I would have been a totally different person today if I followed her advice. Okay, probably not. But the women in this series shed a whole new light on how life could be for women. Their various personalities and their fancy New York lifestyles, give a more progressive lens into heterosexual relationships, starting from the first episode.
In this episode, Carrie Bradshaw and her friends find themselves discussing the differences between men and women in relationships. One woman realizes that the fairy tale of romantic love is, in fact, not real. Once they make this sudden discovery, Carrie and her friends decide they are going to be more like men. They are going to flirt like men, think like men, and most of all, have sex like men.
This liberating view of romance is so appealing to the female viewers because we (not that I speak for all women) often feel under-benefited in our relationships. It is more likely, from my experience, for women to be willing to give much more, much sooner than men. When men do not reciprocate these actions and feelings, and worse, go in the complete opposite direction, women feel even more obliged to give more, say more, and feel more. It’s like the more the woman feels everything, the less the man feels anything! Hence, this episode of Sex and the City was extremely refreshing because it still hung on to the very traditional feminine view of relationships but takes a very liberal turn very quickly. A turn best described in this blog entitled “How to Know You’re Dating a Female Player.”